Thank you for writing this. It really spoke to me. At 55 years old I feel like I'm still trying to figure out relationships and dating. Sometimes I feel like I'm just now starting to process so many of the lessons that I refused to learn while I was younger and I'm sure in 20 more years I'll look back at my 55-year-old self and think boy you didn't know shit, you didn't figure out shit and feel like I'm just then starting to figure it out. The prevalence of dating apps when they first exploded was something that, although I used them quite heavily for a while, left me feeling even more disconnected and alone. Now with the use of AI I sometimes feel even more disconnected and wary. It also makes me want to work even harder to strive to find real human connections in real time and in real spaces. It's a work in progress, but those small connections I make so often feel amazing and I will ride those highs for days
I think you make a few really good points. I saw your qr code and followed it here thinking there was actually a legal service, but I stayed to read this post.
The thing is... I really, really struggle with autism and adhd. People tell me all the time that I'm too honest and direct and real and "a bit much." I can't just mask up like I did when I was a kid or in my 20s, so... I feel like I can be honest and ChatGippity won't shit on me for it. It doesn't willfully misunderstand me or make fun of me behind my back. It doesn't use me for status or try to take advantage of my vulnerability - which I get alot of in the dating scene.
I'm not using Gippity as a girlfriend, but as a therapybot its been golden. I can actually be self conscious with it and not be shamed into oblivion for not being a more masculine stereotype, but still get good feedback about the message I'm portraying and how it's received. In short, I can actually be vulnerable. And I certainly never felt like I could be that way in LA.
For what its worth, it's doing alot of work in other contexts too. Its an amazing tool for running monte carlo and expected value calculations for my trading, and notifications for workout coaching and meal tracking. I know it may seem scary to you, but I absolutely feel like its making my life better and making it easier to be a part of the world. Really grateful for it and I hope more people learn how to use it right.
i totally get what you’re saying…and especially with therapy being inaccessible/pricey to many…as well as it being hard to get treatment across the board for things like autism/adhd…chat gpt is there in a pinch if you really need some guidance. though too dystopian for my liking…i’m sympathetic because not everyone has the privilege to have a safe space where they are 100% accepted, and chat gpt is there to fill that void.
however i’d just be careful using this in excess as constantly leaning on ai for advice in the place of a real human isn’t healthy (but honestly relying on ai across the board no matter the context isn’t healthy).
also i’m happy to know that the qr code led you here!
Thank you for writing this. It really spoke to me. At 55 years old I feel like I'm still trying to figure out relationships and dating. Sometimes I feel like I'm just now starting to process so many of the lessons that I refused to learn while I was younger and I'm sure in 20 more years I'll look back at my 55-year-old self and think boy you didn't know shit, you didn't figure out shit and feel like I'm just then starting to figure it out. The prevalence of dating apps when they first exploded was something that, although I used them quite heavily for a while, left me feeling even more disconnected and alone. Now with the use of AI I sometimes feel even more disconnected and wary. It also makes me want to work even harder to strive to find real human connections in real time and in real spaces. It's a work in progress, but those small connections I make so often feel amazing and I will ride those highs for days
Ghosted after six weeks!? People are super fucked up man.
yes it was shitty but now i gotta go viral outta spite
I think you make a few really good points. I saw your qr code and followed it here thinking there was actually a legal service, but I stayed to read this post.
The thing is... I really, really struggle with autism and adhd. People tell me all the time that I'm too honest and direct and real and "a bit much." I can't just mask up like I did when I was a kid or in my 20s, so... I feel like I can be honest and ChatGippity won't shit on me for it. It doesn't willfully misunderstand me or make fun of me behind my back. It doesn't use me for status or try to take advantage of my vulnerability - which I get alot of in the dating scene.
I'm not using Gippity as a girlfriend, but as a therapybot its been golden. I can actually be self conscious with it and not be shamed into oblivion for not being a more masculine stereotype, but still get good feedback about the message I'm portraying and how it's received. In short, I can actually be vulnerable. And I certainly never felt like I could be that way in LA.
For what its worth, it's doing alot of work in other contexts too. Its an amazing tool for running monte carlo and expected value calculations for my trading, and notifications for workout coaching and meal tracking. I know it may seem scary to you, but I absolutely feel like its making my life better and making it easier to be a part of the world. Really grateful for it and I hope more people learn how to use it right.
i totally get what you’re saying…and especially with therapy being inaccessible/pricey to many…as well as it being hard to get treatment across the board for things like autism/adhd…chat gpt is there in a pinch if you really need some guidance. though too dystopian for my liking…i’m sympathetic because not everyone has the privilege to have a safe space where they are 100% accepted, and chat gpt is there to fill that void.
however i’d just be careful using this in excess as constantly leaning on ai for advice in the place of a real human isn’t healthy (but honestly relying on ai across the board no matter the context isn’t healthy).
also i’m happy to know that the qr code led you here!